Tuesday, January 17, 2017

How Biological Kids are Affected by Foster Siblings

One of our greatest concerns when we decided to go ahead with becoming a foster family was how it would affect our biological kids. Would our kids get hurt? Would they learn bad behaviours? Would they be upset at having to share us with another child? Would they be able to handle saying "goodbye"? We have been so pleasantly surprised with just how well they have adapted. Our kids are not perfect and I know they could just as easily teach someone else naughty words or behaviour. What has really impressed me is how each of them has been able to connect with our Little One in their own way.  Kai is able to offer comfort, Koen's goofiness provides laughter, and Nya's gentle nature means she is a perfect playmate. 

I put together a little video so you can hear it from the kids themselves.  They aren't super "Rah rah rah!" about it but that could be because I made them sit still and answer questions. It's just a normal part of their life to have an extra sibling around and so they don't often think about the pros and cons of it.

Love our family and thankful the kids are on board with what we've decided to do. I don't know what the future holds. I don't know if we will foster again. I do know that for now we have room in our hearts and home for this Little One.



  1. Anonymous5:17 PM

    I appreciate these posts, I don't have my own children and my career would make bringing a foster child into my life difficult right now, but it does make me think about it for the future.
    I always thinks of this quote when you talk about your "little one"

    Often times we feel like either we can't make a world of difference, or we feel that it's not going to change anything anyway. The truth is you can change someone's day, you can change someone's life, but you have to show up and do what you got to do to actually see any fruit coming from it

    Everyday you have your little one and love him, you are changing alife, good work!

    1. Thank you :) As we prepare to say goodbye, I just have to hope that what we've done will stick and make a difference!