Monday, May 11, 2015

Thoughts On Mother's Day 2015

What did we do for Mother's Day?  It wasn't exciting and that was totally fine, I didn't want exciting.  I just wanted to relax and to have the kids tell me why I'm awesome.  Yes, I seriously need those words of affirmation.  Just once a year I want to hear them say, `Thank you for driving me to hockey, washing my stinky clothes, tucking me in, reading with me, cooking meals, buying me princess tattoos, taking me to parks, giving me hugs and tickles etc..', you know, just recognizing what I do for them and how much I love them.  I hope that doesn't sound selfish, I'm just a words of affirmation kind of girl, and I feel that the boys are old enough now to actually think about it. It didn't happen.  I got a `thanks for giving birth to me' from Kai and that was after asking him why he loves me.  I asked him for a compliment.  Pleeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeease tell me that my daughter will tell me that I'm fantastic.  I know she already thinks I'm beautiful...when I wear pink or purple.



We went to church and then took a picnic lunch to the park.  Koen is giving the peace sign and thumbs up (above) in case you were wondering.


The kids had a stick fight, of course.


I spent the day focusing on being a mom to these three little monkeys.  This was probably my best Mother's Day yet in regards to missing my mom.  I think because the anniversary of her passing was just a few days ago, I grieved it then, and for Mother's Day I just wanted to focus on my role in our family.


On Saturday we did Nya's 3rd birthday photos and I had decided to get in some of the pictures with her. I'm glad I did.  I wish I had more pictures of me with my mom, especially as an adult.  I am often critical of how I look in photos but I don't want that to hold me back.  My kids aren't going to say `Oh, mom's hair was a mess and check out her double chin!'.  

Having a daughter has helped heal me.  I feel sort of guilty saying that.  I love all my children the same but there is just something in that mother daughter relationship that has helped to fill an empty place in my heart.  Maybe it's just the timing of her arrival and that my heart had time to heal.  I'm not sure.  All I know is that I am thankful for each unique relationship I have with my kids.


Kai is serious, helpful and crazy about stats.  He loves to have adult conversations with me and the latest question was `What's it like to be married?'.  Koen loves cuddles, imaginative play, and being goofy.  It doesn't take much to make him laugh and he loves to process his feelings with me.  Nya is sweet and loves to play with others. She often hold my hands and ensures that our fingers are intertwined.  They are an amazing bunch and I look forward to seeing what God has in store for them.  I may have told Kai that his wife has to come from B.C.  Kind of kidding but....

Love, 
Louise 



13 comments:

  1. Gorgeous photos! I kind of get the daughter thing. I think that watching my two girls interact with each other has brought some healing for me in terms of the passing of my sister.
    My words of affirmation were in a poem. My mom is super, She's not a pooper. For serious *insert eyeroll here*

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    1. I'm sorry to hear about your sister and I'm glad you understand what I'm saying. The poem is hilarious :) Better than just `Happy Mother's Day'.

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  2. My Mom's "rule" was that we were not allowed to move more than 15 minutes away from her (so far it's worked). I may have told my kids that they're not allowed to get married and they have to live with me forever :)

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    1. Oh, I want my kids to get married, I want grandkids!! ha. My rule for my sisters is they are `allowed' to move within an hour away :)

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  3. Beautiful photos of you and Nya and you and all three children. Here were the words I received from my three sons: "Happy Mother's Day" (2 sons via text) and one "Happy Mother's Day" in a phone call! I have very low expectations for Mother's Day and then I'm not disappointed!! I do have a few cute cards saved that they did at school when they were little. (but no poems quite as catchy as the one, Laura above, got!) I have a poem saved that I wrote for my mother when I was 10 years old. The ending was "and even though you're 41, you look as young as any mom!"

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    1. Thank you, Carol. You sound like my dad by saying `keep your expectations low so you're not disappointed' :) I feel like I've totally lowered my expectations but maybe I need to go further? OR, maybe next year Gary can help direct them to write down some sweet thoughts?! I do miss the preschool cards, hopefully Nya makes one next year. I love that you have a poem that you wrote for your mom.

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  4. I love that you restrict who your kids can marry - but only by location. That's brilliant and I'm sure there's gonna be no issues in carrying that out ;) And that's a great shot of you with just Nya and you with the three of them. You're pretty.

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    1. No issues whatsoever, I'm sure :) ha. I know you know my heart and that I'm joking. It would be hard though, if they were all the way across the country! Although, if we're retired, we can visit more easily. I should probably just take it one day at a time.

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    2. PS Ali- You're pretty too ;)

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  5. You are a great mom Louise, your kids are lucky to have you!!

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    1. Thanks Katrina!! I vote that next year you help my boys to write a card! Oh wait, you won't be here...

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  6. Anonymous4:57 PM

    I LOVE the picture of you with miss Nya in the air - you look so beautiful and genuinely happy, Lou!
    Nut

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    1. Thanks Nut :) Pictures with my family make me very happy!

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