tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21612254.post356382442869347713..comments2024-03-24T00:18:40.060-07:00Comments on Talk Nerdy To Me: Being a Motherless MomLouise Chapmanhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/15052576071967823728noreply@blogger.comBlogger20125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21612254.post-53229524203179280902017-11-09T13:29:32.539-08:002017-11-09T13:29:32.539-08:00Unbelievable how many women have lost their mom at...Unbelievable how many women have lost their mom at a young age. I also ignored a lot of feelings and tried to just push on. I wish I had gotten counselling at that time. Have you read Brene Brown's books? Good on just digging into the grief/mess.<br />Louise Chapmanhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15052576071967823728noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21612254.post-65213849220878007602017-11-09T12:19:06.884-08:002017-11-09T12:19:06.884-08:00I lost my mom 4 years ago and though it never gets...I lost my mom 4 years ago and though it never gets easier, I have noticed that I handle my emotions in different ways. I ignored my feelings alot at the beginning. Tried to move forward. Getting older allowing myself to be more vulnerable when I feel like it. To just delve into an emotional mess feels good.Reghttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07578468340613942387noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21612254.post-20844149934987178512017-11-09T07:38:01.937-08:002017-11-09T07:38:01.937-08:00I can't imagine starting the grief and loss jo...I can't imagine starting the grief and loss journey at a young age. So so hard. Yes, it's missing what could have been. I'm sorry. Louise Chapmanhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15052576071967823728noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21612254.post-64778439626879355632017-11-09T07:37:28.575-08:002017-11-09T07:37:28.575-08:00So so hard.So so hard.Louise Chapmanhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15052576071967823728noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21612254.post-20587968975944206902017-11-09T06:27:59.222-08:002017-11-09T06:27:59.222-08:00I have been a motherless daughter since I was a ch...I have been a motherless daughter since I was a child and when my son arrived, I was suddenly a motherless mother too. It was so friggin' hard. I miss her so much. I miss what was and what could have been. Dee Clarkehttp://thejoyofstyle.canoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21612254.post-75578976167203861142016-07-26T12:08:51.205-07:002016-07-26T12:08:51.205-07:00I lost my mother to leukemia when she was 46 and I...I lost my mother to leukemia when she was 46 and I was 28. At the time I didn't have children but have since had a boy and a girl. And there are days when I wish she was around so that I could call her and ask if whatever my kids were doing was normal or if I was even doing this all right. I'm sad she never got to meet her grandson ( I am the oldest of 3 girls and all my mother ever wanted was a boy) or her one and only granddaughter. My son looks so much like my mother as well so it's a bittersweet reminder of losing her some days. But we do what we can with what we have. I know she's watching over all of us and that gets me through most days.Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09931740360359573842noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21612254.post-89188432713008126822016-02-05T07:44:32.997-08:002016-02-05T07:44:32.997-08:00I'm sorry to hear this, Donna. Such a hard jo...I'm sorry to hear this, Donna. Such a hard journey. Thank you for reading.Louise Chapmanhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15052576071967823728noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21612254.post-46693974833332091272016-02-05T07:42:44.354-08:002016-02-05T07:42:44.354-08:00What a bittersweet feeling finding out you were pr...What a bittersweet feeling finding out you were pregnant two months later. It is so hard not being able to share the ups and downs with someone who loves you SO much and would love to be a grandparent. Thank you for reading and commenting. PS My oldest two are boys too.Louise Chapmanhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15052576071967823728noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21612254.post-70524891924905898332016-02-05T07:38:51.706-08:002016-02-05T07:38:51.706-08:00Oh Sonia, I'm sorry. When you say "bitte...Oh Sonia, I'm sorry. When you say "bittersweet", I think that summarizes so much of the journey. I'm glad that you have a great mother in law too, that does help (although it was a very difficult for me at first seeing my mother-in-law experience it without my own mom). Time does help. Hugs to you. Louise Chapmanhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15052576071967823728noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21612254.post-75491202477018698322016-02-05T05:56:04.017-08:002016-02-05T05:56:04.017-08:00Lost my Mom last year and miss her terribly. Than...Lost my Mom last year and miss her terribly. Thank you for sharing<br />Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05676378108500114144noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21612254.post-15244964088108231552016-02-04T21:19:29.380-08:002016-02-04T21:19:29.380-08:00I am very sorry about your loss. Losing my mother ...I am very sorry about your loss. Losing my mother has been very painful. My mother passed away from cancer at 56 years old. Two months later I found out I was pregnant. I've had two beautiful boys since then. There's so much I wish I could share with her everyday. Knowing I'm not alone and hearing from other motherless mom's that in time it gets easier is helpful. Thank you...I needed this.DDhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09760096993706056480noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21612254.post-61434447067392996082016-02-04T18:10:31.479-08:002016-02-04T18:10:31.479-08:00Thank you for writing this. I too am a motherless...Thank you for writing this. I too am a motherless mom. Unfortunately, my mom passed away 2 years before we even conceived and that was after 6 years of trying to conceive. I was so focused on being there for my mom through her 5 year cancer battle that we never thought we would need help conceiving, I attributed all those negative pregnancy results to too much stress from worry over my mom's illness. We soon found out that there was a lot more wrong than stress so we had to seek help. When my husband and I finally got that positive test result the feeling was so bittersweet. The thought that I wouldn't be sharing any of the experiences with my mom, the shopping, the nursery prep and the exchange of stories/experiences...it was really hard. When our daughter was born was an amazing moment of joy but deep down I felt so sad because of not having my mom there with me. Everything you described from the moment your son was born, I felt it all too. Our daughter is 2 now and so amazing to have in our lives. I thank God for this beautiful blessing and pray that my mom is watching from above. And I'm also very grateful to have a mother in law who knows I miss my mom but tries to be 2 grandmothers. And also an amazing family that has always been there for me/us. <br />So, thank you for writing this. It never gets easy but it does get better with time. XoAnonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16109044547496227816noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21612254.post-2928471296045290822016-02-04T16:28:28.160-08:002016-02-04T16:28:28.160-08:00Tracey, I am so so sorry to read this. I have no ...Tracey, I am so so sorry to read this. I have no idea how one goes on after so much loss but I guess it is day by day. I really hope that you have support around you to carry you during this time. Much love to you.Louise Chapmanhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15052576071967823728noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21612254.post-46712967435114484692016-02-04T16:02:43.850-08:002016-02-04T16:02:43.850-08:00This truly hits home for me. Today we buried my mo...This truly hits home for me. Today we buried my mother. One year to the day that I buried my partner and father of my son. I was 6 months pregnant with my son when his father passed away. My son is 9 months old and I have buried my mother. Being a motherless mother is hard, being a partner less mother is hard. I thank you for writing your story it gives me strength. I hope that I am able to raise my son to be the person both his father and grandmother would be proud of. Much love to all mothers. Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10098987471349022926noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21612254.post-24756346957196681412016-01-19T17:36:10.968-08:002016-01-19T17:36:10.968-08:00 Thanks ex-girlfriend ;) Thanks ex-girlfriend ;)Louise Chapmanhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15052576071967823728noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21612254.post-42779975737502511522016-01-19T17:35:34.975-08:002016-01-19T17:35:34.975-08:00Thanks, Katrina! I think she would be proud of me...Thanks, Katrina! I think she would be proud of me but even more so of these kids of mine :) Louise Chapmanhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15052576071967823728noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21612254.post-11673398750432209032016-01-19T17:35:03.238-08:002016-01-19T17:35:03.238-08:00Thank you. I imagine being far apart would be so ...Thank you. I imagine being far apart would be so hard too! Yay for technology and telephones :)Louise Chapmanhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15052576071967823728noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21612254.post-37020611335736520652016-01-19T09:25:50.560-08:002016-01-19T09:25:50.560-08:00You too have been a "wounded healer". :...You too have been a "wounded healer". :)Marsaliehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16004554349567271016noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21612254.post-67985178343603196732016-01-18T16:44:37.441-08:002016-01-18T16:44:37.441-08:00This is beautiful, Louise. I'm so, so sorry th...This is beautiful, Louise. I'm so, so sorry that your life took this turn. You are a wonderful Mom and she would be so proud of you!!Katrina Volkenanthttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03180235473321517124noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21612254.post-92035345429240539952016-01-18T08:56:37.510-08:002016-01-18T08:56:37.510-08:00this is so heartbreaking, and Im truly sorry about...this is so heartbreaking, and Im truly sorry about your mother. My mom is still here and well, although I only get to see her a few times a year due to the huge distance between us. I miss her all the time, and every visit isn't long enough. Unknownhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02971912645222033740noreply@blogger.com