tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21612254.post2817724020370354495..comments2024-03-24T00:18:40.060-07:00Comments on Talk Nerdy To Me: Our Marriage In 2014Louise Chapmanhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/15052576071967823728noreply@blogger.comBlogger4125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21612254.post-39101055214693115712014-12-10T20:08:41.357-08:002014-12-10T20:08:41.357-08:00This is really great Louise. I'm happy for you...This is really great Louise. I'm happy for you guys. Since we saw you this summer, A and I started reading a book together called (cheesy title, I know!), Hold Me Tight by Sue Johnson and it has been so, so helpful for us. Seems we really needed to work on some things! The book is about emotional connection and attachment - being accessible, responsive and engaged with your partner. She says many problems and arguments come out of a fear of a lack of connection and secure attachment, not that unlike a parent-child relationship (although much more complex and intimate of course). It has got us seeing and talking about things we weren't aware of before and we are seeing some real breakthrough in our relationship. We have been able to identify and discuss our needs and are just generally more tuned into each other. So nice to hear you discussing your marriage here. I believe it's something we need to be talking about and supporting each other in. Marriage is hard and can be so, so life-giving, rewarding and vibrant when we pay attention and work on it. Good for you guys! Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18020986110310176936noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21612254.post-45118476966910512602014-12-03T19:03:16.278-08:002014-12-03T19:03:16.278-08:00You're amazing!!! So good to hear!!! I love bl...You're amazing!!! So good to hear!!! I love bluntness ;) thanks for sharing! Heidihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10944328076568775002noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21612254.post-61703067676702088592014-12-03T08:52:12.168-08:002014-12-03T08:52:12.168-08:00Yup good job Louise! I have been quietly watching...Yup good job Louise! I have been quietly watching your journey and for sure all the changes you mentioned have been noticed to your quiet observer. So proud of you! I know that God will honor your desire to have a strong marriage! ��pamnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21612254.post-28690670921410895302014-12-03T08:29:26.558-08:002014-12-03T08:29:26.558-08:00This is AWESOME Louise :) I am excited to have mor...This is AWESOME Louise :) I am excited to have more free evenings to be in the same room as Alf. AND losing 20lbs was a HUGE self-confidence booster in our marriage! Plus, I dress far more fashionable now (thanks to needing to for work) and I know that's appreciated too. except I have yet to really dive into the world of skirts and dresses...he would love that.<br />Well done, both of you! KellyAnonymousnoreply@blogger.com